Nah — that’s not what TNSWA’s about. Not even by implicitly or figuratively.

Having said that, the error lies in the messenger if the message is largely missed. That wasn’t the case here — it was largely understood. Still, I see people here who I encounter down the road, and who impress me as trying hard to get this right. I’ve seen you comment elsewhere, remembered your name, circled back to try again.

This isn’t about the people. This is about ditching the name. I take another swing here if you are interested. https://medium.com/our-human-family/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-white-ally-tnswa-part-ii-7afa04073c1f

FWIW, I don’t believe feminism is an issue among women — I believe it’s an issue of basic humanity. Same with racism. The distinction has all the tracings of nitpicking, but it’s not. Well, I believe it’s not. When, IMO, we condition ourselves to channel an obligation — social justice — through a class — women, blacks, gays, the disabled — it looses something crucial in the translation. One fights against racism b/c it’s wrong. One does not fight against racism b/c s/he likes/dislikes Black people.

It’s more like this: I am a lawyer and that, more often than makes me happy, means I often stand between a system and someone who has done some not so good things. I do that b/c I demand that system be what it’s designed to be. That’s not conditional. It’s the system’s OBLIGATION, and I will accept no less. Doesn’t matter how I feel about the bad actor, so to speak. The system and the bad actor bear no cause and effect relationship and I damn sure am going to make sure it stays that way.

That’s a personal opinion. I raise it b/c it disrupts the analogy for me. Now that (the need to actually say anything) IS being nitpicky, as I know perfectly well what you communicated and understood your point easily.

I just can’t always, you know, help myself exactly.

Best. ~Cat