I have to trust that you’re being genuine. I’m not entirely certain that I, however, am being clear.

I am asking you to tell me what:

• Actions YOU took
• with HER
• to probe HER SUFFERING.

Because I don’t think you did a single thing WITH her to UNDERSTAND . . . HER. Not one.

I could be wrong. Perhaps I overlooked it. I’d hate to make such a mistake.

My question cannot be answered with your thoughts.

My question cannot be answered with your feelings.

My question cannot be answered with your needs.

My question cannot be answered with your interpretation.

My question cannot be answered with what matters to you.

My question can ONLY be answered by reading your RESPONSES to HER.

My question can only be answered with an ACTION you took.

A thing you DID.

A thing you SAID.

A thing you ASKED.

It must be TO her.

It must be ABOUT her.

It must be to UNDERSTAND.

HER.

FEELINGS or PERSPECTIVE.

Or, is my understanding correct? That you did not, in fact, ASK even one question — not one single question — about WHY she feels as she does?

Is that it? Is that your answer, Jean? You did or said nothing in an effort to get her to explain more about why she feels as she does?